Crocker and Brownie (In Memorium for Eric Crocker Aug. 13, 1940—Aug. 21, 2010)

Eric Crocker clapping his hands
Eric Crocker enjoying a story

Crocker and Brownie

(In Memorium for Eric Crocker Aug. 13, 1940—Aug. 21, 2010)

It is a popular fiction that we humans only get one true love per lifetime, but I have been blessed with two. This is the story about my first true love, Eric Crocker.

I don’t have much to add to the literature of love at first sight: it’s as all the romantics say—whammo! Right between the eyes!

I have often thought I have lived my life to date in three dream worlds: the first, of my childhood; the second, as an Emissary of Divine Light; the third, my life as a writer, teacher and married woman. I lived in that second dream when I met Eric, and our love blossomed there in the orange blossom air of the Temescal Valley.

I have to explain some changes that were going on at our intentional community, Glen Ivy, to describe where we met. The Lodge, which was the major building on this land we Emissaries purchased in 1977, had some of the original adobe structure from the late 19th century—1873 is one estimated date, but it could have been be a few years older—post-Civil War 1860s. The kitchen had been up-to-date maybe in the 1950s, but all that had to come out and be rebuilt. While the construction was going on, the cooking shifted over to a more ramshackle place we called the old Administration Building.

Glen Ivy Community Lodge construction early 1980s

It had a big front room and a tiny kitchen. Mary Shannon Keating, Angela Herauf, and Gloria Frank Rubin lived there at the time, putting up with the constant noise of an impromptu communal dining hall. In the winter, all the windows would steam up with our collective breath and the breathing of big pots on a stove never designed to handle more than a frying pan and a teakettle.

We heart-held humans measure time by births, deaths, and kitchen rebuilds. Eric told John Gray he came to Glen Ivy before the Gray’s daughter Melissa was born, which was April 1, 1978. So in late March 1978, the lunch crew had set up an outdoor dish station. Eric had just arrived, and I think he had already spotted and asked about me because he called out to me in his fearless impudence, “When are you going to leave the rest and come to the best?” That was a reference to my friendship with Allen Shackleford. Allen and I had a “let’s go to the movies” type friendship, but it was a warm and true one—oh, the many paths of memory, that garden of forking paths.

But the moment I first saw Eric, my heart did double-time. They say time stops when you meet a true love, and I can say it did for me. Eric was scraping his plate and laughing at me. He wouldn’t win any contests for heights and he had the bandy-legged roll of many short men, with the something that is very Argentine—an aggressive throwing out of his feet as he walked. His background included a childhood in Uruguay and long-time associations with Argentina and Mexico. He worked throughout the late eighties until the end of his life as a translator.

He had short, only slightly wavy, caramel colored hair, and he was certainly good looking in a way that went straight to my image of beauty in a man. His eyes were real show-stoppers—an unusual shade of aquamarine with green and brown flecks; wide set with a hint of a tilt, and clear as high mountain lake water. He had an ever lively, expressive face full of mischief and flirt and charm to spare.  Renita Dreidger Wellman called him, “That pirate,” and Bev Petow called him, “The cuss,” which gives a beginning idea of the variety of impressions he made on women, anyway.

He was and remained a smoker, preferring Marlboros while in the States but switching to Mexican unfiltereds the second he crossed the border. Eric’s hands were always busy with the business of the smoke—unwrapping a new pack, crushing an old; shaking out a cigarette; the ritual of the light, the inhale, the exhaled cloud of smoke—often a glass of tequila in one hand, a smoke in the other. I am willing to bet he’d say he was never happier than at such perfectly balanced moments with only the addition of, say, the smell of barbequing steak in the air. Although for sure he wouldn’t let me have the last word on that one.

Eric was full of sexy joie d’vivre and masculine self-confidence. He was very funny and a big tease. I did not fall into bed with him right away; I gave him a run for his money, but he did not go without feminine attention as other women who were around at the time can testify. I was dating Allen, chastely because I was confused about the okay/not okay status of peer-to-peer sex within our spiritual group.

At a certain point in the history of these years, John Gray gave a, uh (delicate throat clearing moment here) seminal service where he said, and I quote from memory, having completely forgotten the rest of the context, “You weren’t issued a chastity belt when you were invited to live at Glen Ivy, you know.” That seemed to clear my mind about it a little bit. Not that I was a virgin. I’d had a couple of college encounters, and Larry Johansen and I had certainly had a hot and too brief affair when we both lived in the Westwood Emissary Center, but years definitely went by that were all sizzle and no steak.

With Eric and me, it was always sizzle, and when we got around to the steak two years later, it was the full meal deal. Meanwhile, he joined my circle of friends. When he was in the room, I always felt like an exotic, exciting woman. Because of Eric, I wore off the shoulder peasant blouses, long skirts with tiers of ruffles; I wore my hair long and always had a flower behind my ear. I was no beauty, but his clear, blue-green gaze convinced me otherwise. He lit the fire of my inner beauty, a flame I have tried to never let go out.

Sandy the Hibiscus Girl

The Hibiscus Girl circa 1980

As I write, that young woman re-emerges on the page, a barely recognizable butterfly flitting through my story like some dazzling other woman—young, excited, and in love.

At Glen Ivy, our days merged into the flow of community. Eric worked on the endless construction projects, which took, as John Gray said to me in a recent e-mail, “A lo-o-o-ng time.” I had a job at Parkview Community Hospital in Riverside. I would often cook breakfast in the little Ad Building kitchen at 6:00 am, go to work in town, and be scheduled to set tables or do kitchen clean up in the evenings. I understand I’m writing now with decades of hindsight that has blurred my vision, but that said, as I remember it, I endured my employment hours impatient with the urge to get back to Glen Ivy where everything truly important to my life and destiny was going on (and I wasn’t wrong about that). My ongoing flirtation with Eric gave every day a champagne fizz, the Rice Krispy snap, crackle, pop of young hormones. I was 28 but may as well have been 18.

The only way for me to really remember Eric out of the flow of the river’s sweep of community life is to recall the times we traveled together away from Glen Ivy. The hottest of those trips was the one we took across the desert to Phoenix, Arizona, to attend a big party celebrating my sister Toren’s graduation from nursing school. I had told her we couldn’t attend because I wanted to surprise her.

Sisters of the 1980s: Sandy Brown and Toren Brown

When Eric and I got into town, we stopped at the Chris-Town Mall (now called Chris Town Spectrum Mall) and bought a set of king-sized pillowcases. We parked a block away from Toren’s house and giggled like a couple of kids as we cut eye holes in the pillow cases, which, when we put them over our heads, dropped down a fair way toward covering our complete torsos. She would never guess who we were.

Outside Toren’s door, we struggled with each other’s pillowcases to get them on with all the coverage possible, then Eric, both arms pinned to his sides, leaned on the doorbell.

Toren threw the door open and, confronted with two refugees from the Klu Klux Klan, yelled without a pause over her shoulder, “Hey! It’s Sandy and Eric!” To this day, I have no idea what gave us away. Open-minded hostess Toren, not knowing we weren’t sleeping together, put us up in the same room, and I have to say that ooh! la! la! After that we were, and how.

I don’t want to forget my life with Eric. I don’t want to forget our trip into Arizona’s rugged Bradshaw Mountains. We set out on a hot spring weekend, but not too hot, maybe in the low 90’s. Eric was driving Allen Shackleford’s old blue pickup truck with a heavy aluminum camper on the back.

We pitched a tent down in the cottonwoods where a creek glimmered out of the redrock country into a shady thicket. It wound for a mile under rocky bluffs and under big trees and through early grassed meadows. The water was warm and we were alone, so we stripped down for some water sports. I am always the first one in the pool, so after I had ducked myself cool, I turned around to look for Eric. Here he came down the shady path stark naked, barefooted with all the ginger assurance of a dog in a stubble field, a cigarette in each hand because he didn’t have a pocket for a pack and he thought it might be a two cigarette swim.

The dirt road into our private idyll had not had the benefits of a Swiss engineer. The descent from Crown King to the love canyon where we were frolicking like young deer had been steeply angled, full of potholes muddy with spring run off.  I had no notion of physics in those days, so I was amazed when Eric announced, “We might’ve gotten this truck in by the sheer force of gravity, but it ain’t going out the way it came in. Get out the map, Brownie, we have to get out the back door of these little hills.”

We put our heads together of the map and he pointed, “Here.”

I squinted, “Congress? It doesn’t look big enough to have an outhouse.”

“You better pray it has a gas pump because this hay burner is down to a half a tank.”

Thus began an epic trip through the spectacular, rugged back country of Arizona. The Bradshaws are rough, broken up sandstone. I have the benefit now of technology as yet unborn then–a panoramic look using Google Maps.  I see we were in Prescott National Forest, which looks like a piece of heavy duty construction paper wadded up real tight then spread out on an extra piece of the globe no one else was using. (I’m sure the Hohokam, Yavapai and Apache Indians would all consider that a pretty stupid thing to say.) The land is crinkled, rucked, folded, bent, spindled and mutilated into landforms we inadequately call mountains, hills, ridges, arroyos, creeks and canyons. I see a picture online of a Jeep on Old Crown King Trail, which is a jumble of boulders and potholes, no more than an idea of a track on the backside of country my husband says looks like the border between Afghanistan and Pakistan.

Epic journey through the Bradshaws

We weren't the only ones struggling with the Bradshaw wilderness roads

Eric’s hope for no more vertical ascents as we headed for that distant point called Congress was a joke. He drove that truck with his right hand, his left elbow out the window, cigarette kept inside the cab, for that is flammable country. Those were pre-seatbelt days. I jounced from doorframe to headboard trying to wedge knees, shoulders, and hips to keep from cracking my head repeatedly on the nearest piece of truck. Eric drove with verve and aggression, attacking hills with speed at calculated angles, sometimes doing a back and fill, other times taking multiple runs at the same impossible hill.

Bradshaw mountain adventures

I see by this more recent photo on Google images that the roads through the Bradshaws haven't improved any in the last thirty years!

Finally, even Crocker was semi-defeated by the hopped-up road builders of the Bradshaw Mountains. “Brownie,” he finally said, “we can’t do it with this much weight on the truck.”

“I can get out and walk again,” I volunteered.

“We’ve already tried that on the last five hills. We’re not going to get out of here if we don’t lighten up. That means taking off the camper and leaving anything else non-essential behind.”

I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I was born and raised in the Cascade Mountains of Washington State, and I had never heard of such a thing. But that’s exactly what we did. We unbolted Allen’s camper and between us and with more help from gravity, left it on the side of the so-called road. For all I know, it’s still there, a rusty monument to a desperate moment.

“Put our food and water in a pack for the front seat. That heavy metal cooler has to stay, too.”

Leave a cooler behind? My mind just couldn’t get oriented to the reality of our situation.

“And our suitcases, tent, camping equipment and sleeping bags. We can pile it under the camper in case anyone can ever come back for it. Or to help some other lost sucker out of gas and out of luck.”

I finally got it. “Like the pioneers on the Oregon Trail leaving their pianos behind.”

“Now you’ve got the idea, Brownie.”

A few hundred pounds lighter, the truck still struggled up the hill under Eric’s lash. And down another and up the next. We tried to keep track of where we were on the map, but that way lay madness.

At one point, Eric said, “Just for the record, we have no gas.”

We didn’t have gas for the next two hours as we battled our way out of the Bradshaws, made the long, straight run across the outwash plain on, as the popular saying goes, a wing and a prayer, coming into the thriving metropolis of Congress (population about six in those days, but population 1717 as of the 2000 census) through a blazing red sunset. The whole world bathed in gold dust as we barreled into town, what there was of it. But there was a gas pump, and a café, steak and tequila, and I can still see Eric sitting back in the red vinyl booth with a cigarette and a shot glass, boasting how he’d gotten the best of a worthy enemy.

In 1981, the world wide Emissary nation embraced what was called the Human Unity movement with a year of meetings, fund raisers, and celebrations in collaboration with several other humanistically-oriented individuals and groups ranging from Brother Love Israel’s family to Marilyn Ferguson, author of The Aquarian Conspiracy. We were all pointing our efforts at staging a conference and happening at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, B. C.

I wrote a poem in English and in Spanish with the help of Argentine friend Claudia Chaves called Primer Poema/ First Poem, and Eric and I were sent off in a borrowed Corolla to present it as part of the invocation ceremonies at this big culminating event.

For some reason, we had lots of time and drove up the Big Sur coast of California through the California Redwoods, skipped the Oregon Coast in favor of I-5’s directness, but at Washington, we swerved west around the Olympic Peninsula, some of my home territory. We saw a dark-furred mountain beaver up on the Hoh River Road. We hiked along the Hoh on a sunny day. Side pools radiated a rich blue green that comes from light refraction on suspended glacial silt. I’d been coming here since I was a kid—I knew these ponds were beautiful to look at but constantly one degree south of permanently icing over. But Eric couldn’t resist.

He took off his clothes, placed his lit cigarette on a patch of wet moss, where it promptly went out, and walked out on a log. “C’mon, Brownie!” he yelled, gesturing to me to join him, “No guts, no glory.”

Eric jumped in, and I’ve never seen anyone come up out of water so fast in my life. He gave walking on water a new believability. Clearly, Jesus Christ had caught the Sea of Galilee on an icy cold day and was spinning his legs like cartoon wheels to keep from falling back into the Arctic depths.

“You didn’t even get wet,” I complained as I handed him a T-shirt to dry off with. Later, when we told this story to John Gray, he said, “Your heart could’ve stopped!”

When Eric had changed from blue to something approaching normal coloration, we drove around to Dungeness Spit, a five and half mile long tongue of sand sticking out into the Strait of Juan de Fuca. We bought a loaf of bread, some rock crabs, and a bottle of red wine and spread a picnic under a huge old driftwood log. We tore the bread with our hands, knocked the crab open on rocks, and passed the bottle back and forth as another sunset the color of meatball sauce drenched the sky and the reflecting mirror of the sea in that tomato soup red. I am lucky that the map of my world is dense with flagged pins of happiness, but that one is the red of sunset and still signals all that is best to eat in this world, and where, and with whom.

If memory and an Internet search serve, the 8th annual Humanity Unity Conference in Vancouver, B. C. gathered over a thousand people together. It certainly looked that way from up on the stage, looking out at the swaying, chanting mass of humanity. Eric and I were introduced and an expectant silence fell. The collective attention of a thousand people focused on Eric and me and my little poem. I will probably never again have so many people listen to a poem of mine so attentively. We recited it line by line, me in English, Eric in Spanish:

First Poem

This is my first poem in your language

because it is not enough to love you from afar.

What is it that draws one self

out of the mountainous dark of the north

to reach out to the red arrow of the south?

What moves my heart to extend and embrace

the complex, vehement sweetness of South America?

I don’t know.

But I know with a slow and singular flame I love its jungles,

its Pampas, Andes, those legendary cities,

and people of gold.

Pulsing with the exactitude

of nature’s casual perfections,

steeped in music and wine,

ripped by clearcuts of land and soul,

washed in blood of trees and people,

blood both green and red, yet

do you set the feather to my heart.

As I walk the rough streets of Los Angeles,

gazes of the southerly lands meet mine as if

we had always known each other.

I rush to speak to you,

but we have no common tongue.

“But I am your sister!” is my soulcry;

grieved, I see your eyes turned away from mine,

having no faith in the primary fire

of first recognition.

I believe in that fire

like I believe in the sounds of dreams

or a sudden bell.

I will learn your language;

will you learn mine?

Border guards roam the pockmarked face

of the disputed land,

but let them not trespass

in the pristine cartographies of the heart.

A united heart without boundaries

calls us beyond ourselves—let this be

our first poem together.

Primer Poema

Este es mi primer poema en tu  lengua,

porque no es suficiente amarte desde  lejos .

¿Qué es lo que nos impele, desde la penumbra  montañosa

del norte, a extender la mano

hacia la  flecha roja del  sur?

¿Qué insta a mi corazón  a estirarse y abrazar

la compleja y vehemente dulzura

de América del Sur?

No lo sé.

Pero sé que con una llama lenta y singular

amo sus junglas,

sus pampas, sus Andes,

aquellas cuidades legendarias

y pueblos de un oro inderretible.

Pulsando con la relajada exactitud

de perfecciones naturales,

empapada de música y de vino,

bañada por sangre verde y roja: de árboles y  gentes,

hendida por el talado de sus bosques

y  violaciones a su espíritu auténtico …

con todo,

me enciendes el alma.

Caminando por las calles inclementes de Los  Angeles

miradas de tierras sureñas se cruzan con la  mía,

como si nos conociéramos

desde siempre.

Apresuro el paso para hablarte

pero no hablamos e mismo idioma.

“¡Soy tu hermana!” grita mi alma;

y me entristezco

al ver que tu mirada me rehuye ,

por no tener fé en la esencia  candente

del primer reconocimiento.

Yo creo en ese fuego como creo

en el sonido de los sueños o de una campana

repentina.

Aprenderé tu idioma;

¿aprenderás tú el mío ?

Guardias fronterizos deambulan

por la faz llagada de tierras en disputa…

¡que no invadan

las prístinas cartografías del corazón!

Una voz unida nos llama más allá de  nosotros:

que sea éste nuestro primer poema

juntas.

When we concluded, instead of applauding, one thousand people put their hands in the air and twinkled their fingers in the air. I felt lifted off the stage in a rush of feeling, as if they had all flicked on the little flames of lighters as they do at rock concerts and the huge hall was filled with the flicker of those soul flames.

Because of Eric’s family connections with Uruguay and Argentina and his Spanish fluency, he spent increasing amounts of time in South America developing an Emissary foothold. While he was gone, I started to hang out with his best friend Bill Martin. I don’t have many kind thoughts about myself in that dance of change partners. I seem to have developed my moral compass a little late in life because I was not as forthcoming with Eric as I wish now I had been. I did some dumb things, and I hurt a person I loved. There came a point where it seemed like I had a choice between going to Argentina with Eric and going to graduate school, and I chose graduate school. By 1982, I was teaching at the University of California at Riverside.

It all unraveled in a bigger mess than that. I wish now I had known what the term passive aggressive meant. When Eric went to Argentina, we were a couple; he came back and I was dating Bill, and I had never written to Eric or given him any clues that my life trajectory had changed. Any time we make people guess and deprive them of the respect implicit in direct communication, we fall back into the shadowlands of humanity.

When I knew and loved Eric, he had already had a family with his first wife Sandra Angelou, and he became a great grandfather.

Eric Crocker, his youngest daughter Victoria, and first wife, Sandra Angelou

Eric Crocker, his youngest daughter Victoria, and first wife, Sandra Angelou

After me, he went on to have three more wives. I hope they all loved him as I did for our time together, with the giddy abandon of a true love.

Eric Crocker and Jeannie Kezlan at the "best of times"

Eric Croker Aug. 11, 2009

Eric Crocker and fourth wife, Jeannie Kezlan, called by all who know her "The Saint" Aug. 11, 2009

I went on to have a second true love, and I have always secretly delighted in the strange synchronicity that their birthdays are only a week apart deep in the hot month of August.

Smoking finally caught up with Eric in the form of Metabolic Acidosis and Multiple organ failure, and he died a few days after his 70th birthday.

It’s hard to learn what to say when a true love dies.

22 thoughts on “Crocker and Brownie (In Memorium for Eric Crocker Aug. 13, 1940—Aug. 21, 2010)

  1. Sandy,
    Beautiful! Thank you writing beautilfully of your love for my father. Much love and found memory of youare in my heart. I know how he loved you.
    Brenda

  2. Wow. What a man. That pirate! He was Erol Flynn, but a whole lot nicer. It was easy to feel like a beautiful and adored woman with him. He was able to be macho and respect the feminist. What a great combination in a man.

  3. What a man! “Fierce Compassion”, a phrase I heard after leaving Glen Ivy, comes in now as I think of Eric. Who can ever forget those eyes and that smile, that assured presence and lushness of affection or brilliantly eloquent anger. But for me, the memory that is strongest for me as I sit here late at night after reading your piece, Sandy, is observing Eric day after day as he so lovingly crafted the fountain courtyard outside the Glen Ivy sanctuary, especially seeing the care with each stone as he laid them in the radiating circle around the fountain, until its completion left a place to come and be stilled by the beauty of a place made sacred by a man’s loving hands. I don’t know if I’ll ever return there, but that peaceful beauty seems still alive in me as a lasting blessing from that man, those hands, that flaming spirit, that gorgeous loving heart.

  4. Sandy, the connections we all have made in the “early” years still ring true as the vibrations continue. The essenses of your writing about our friend Eric brings forth new seasons yet we will remember….thanks and bless you Eric for these stirrings of heart.

  5. What a lovely tribute. How I remember you in the attire of off the shoulder blouses, flowing skirts and that beautiful long hair with flowers behind the ear. Your Arizona trip brought a reminder of how Dad would see a dirt rut and off we’d go, often wondering if we would make it out with vehicle in tow. I don’t remember ever meeting Eric, but I know I would have loved him too. A treasure memory lodged in your heart. What a blessing.

  6. Thanks Sandy for capturing Eric’s amazing spirit. For those of us who lived large mostly in private, I want to say that Eric lived large ‘in your face’ and I loved it. I’m very sorry to hear of his passing but he does live on in my heart.

  7. Sandy,
    I am impressed with your beautiful writing skills. In your story, you have captured Eric’s indomitable spirit. He was a man of courage that propelled him into many escapades and adventures. It was wonderful to be with him when he told some his more exciting experiences. He would leaves all of us with our mouths open. He was also fiercely loyal and responsive to the Spirit of Life. In that regard we worked together in Argentina, Chile & Mexico and it was always exciting and to a certain degree daunting because of his unpredicatable nature. I love it. I was alway at the edge of my seat, so to speak, anticipating what unusual situation we would get into. This was a man who seem to live on the edge of the moment, which was perfect for a quiet, kind of shy person like me. He shock my foundation & when it rearraged again it was stronger & more pliable so I was able to move more easily in unusual situations. Both Jim & I feel we were given a precious gift by our association with Eric! He will stay close in our hearts.

    Thank you for your beautiful account of your experience with him. I join everyone in encompassing the family in this momentous transition.
    Maria Frid

  8. Your words captured Eric beautifully. He is a complicated man. When he came to pick Maria and I up at the airport in Argentina the first time he was disheveled from spending the night in the local jail for some minor infraction. Later that week while he and I were presenting a fourth hour the local sheriff barged in and arrested Eric right in mid-sentence. Maria stepped forward to do the translating and Eric was back in an hour or so to carry on without loosing a beat. I will always remember him for his ferocity. When I worked with him, as he translated for me, he always did so faithfully, even when he did not like or agree with the content and yet he managed to make me a better speaker in Spanish than I may have ever been in my native language. Eric was/is a force of nature. We all are to some degree, but Eric lived particularly deep in the throat of that force. He is in my heart as he makes this grand passage. Peace be unto you, Eric, my friend.

  9. Sandy,
    Brilliant! I can feel the love through your story. We are all richer people for having known Eric Crocker. When I think of experiences that took place around Glen Ivy especially working with the men, and Eric, my heart is full and it puts a hugh grin on my face. Eric was a good time looking for a place to happen. I think I will celebrate his passing with having a shot of my best tequilla tonight and toast in his name.

  10. Sandy, I cannot exactly respond in an articulate way right now. Feeling eclipses the thoughts. You and Eric were lucky to have each other for a time. Your essay is a gift to his family and everyone who knew him. Beautifully done – thank you.

  11. Sandy, though I had read much of your story in the email you sent earlier to Eric, It was suggested I see this post to facebook …….
    I only wish I had been the first true love…….think it might have been the only one for both of us had it happened that way…..turned out our time together was way too short………….but I do need to set the record straight………..
    Eric never received chemotherapy for one thing, He died of Metabolic Acidosis and Multiple organ failure. The person who sent these photos to you should never have done so…….to post the one of Eric so very ill seemed cruel and hurtful to me………I am very sorry no one asked my permission and had the audacity to send these private photos to others………..Please keep this in mind in the future when exhibiting your writing skills…….I feel sad that you and the other person who sent the photos did this.
    Santa Jeannie Crocker

  12. Dear Sandy:
    Your words touched my heart. I met Eric during my first visit in Glen Ivy in 1982 and after that we shared wonderful times in Tucumán, where he started activities at El Pucará.
    He was more than a friend, he was my brother and he lives in my heart.
    Last time I saw him was two years ago when I visited him and Jeannie and I have stayed a week in his house in Mexico.
    Please, receive my love to you from Argentina, a place that Eric loved.
    Carlos

  13. Sandy:
    Your words touched my heart.
    I met Eric for the first time at Glen Ivy in 1982. After that, he moved to my country, Argentina, where we shared wonderful times at El Pucara.
    I visited him and Jeannie at their house in Mexico two years ago and we spent a week together. That was the last time I saw him.
    He was my friend and he was my brother. I give thanks to the Lord for the privilege I had to share life with a very special man like Eric.
    With much love.
    Carlos Sal Zurita – Buenos Aires – Argentina

  14. Thanks Sandy. Your memorial is filled with the earth and heart that was Eric. He took a one week class at Edgewater Acres in Natchitoches when I lived there and worked with me on the “work pattern.” He turned that into an adventure of the first order and we ended up on various projects many times thereafter. He always told it like it was, truth for him being a very personal matter, and you captured his virility and joy in living perfectly. Dropping the camper to continue over the mountains took “cayungs” as Eric would say (spelling anyone?) and those he had, a man among men and women who took him for what he was and loved him for it.

  15. Sandy,
    Thanks for the memories. I particularly remember Eric as a man with whom I had some wonderful conversation. Sometimes a glass of Zin was part of the mix. The joy of life was definitely there. We were even able to converse about our love and care for a certain young woman without the usual competition or jealousy that often impacts the male of the species. He was a prince among men. Thanks…again…for the memories.
    Blessings!! –Larry

  16. Sandy i do hope you have read the comments I wrote on the Facebook version of this story……….Thank you,
    Jeannie

  17. Gracias Sandy. I will put some red meat on the grill, pour a glass of red wine and toast to the salty old bastard pronto. Your story brings Eric right back to life for me. I loved him. We spent some time at El Pucara in Argentina together. I can still see him standing barechested, cooking meat over the open-air grill, wine glass in hand, cigarette in mouth, telling stories in English and Spanish. I wish him well on his journey. Love, Will

  18. Sandy, sorry it took so long to figure out the reason for the “friend” request.
    Jeannie, I am so sorry for your loss; for all our loss… Jeannie you must be a special woman: Crocker seemed to seek them out, even if just to befriend (ask my wife Dorie). Often’s the time he would hold court at our apartment in the Lodge at Glen Ivy; we enjoying each others company partaking of the same sacrament – cigarette and drink.
    Laurence noticed something that I too remember of Eric – the love expressed in his work done with his hands. Besides his eloquence this is something I will always remember too.
    Farewell Crocker. I grieve with you Jeannie.

  19. I am touched with what everyone has written, and by you pouring out your heart Sandy, sharing so personally your experience with Eric. I remember the reading of your poem at the Human Unity Conference in Vancouver, and how my heart thrilled then. So good to acknowledge and be with all that has been shared, in the sad sweetness remembering Eric. Love, Jean

  20. Perhaps Eric sensed my heritage as it was only hours after checking into the Art of Liviing one month class ,July ’79,that we were up in his little trailer drinking shots of gold ,symbolic of the years of friendship to follow..I too immediately loved the Guy and have told the story about him throwing the Building Inspector that pissed him off into a Florida canal with alligators and all.
    What a beautiful Man

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